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Buhanga “Forgiveness Survey” - from Mother Givers Humanist School

Posted: Tue, March 07, 2017 | By: Humanism



​A “Forgiveness Survey” was recently taken of 15 children who attend Mother Givers Humanist School.

Scientific research indicates that it is mentally, physically and academically beneficial for children to “let go” of the anger, fear, resentment, and sadness caused by being hurt.

The survey was taken to determine:

  • what occurs in the daily life of Buhanga children that injures and hurts them?
  • are they able to “let go” of the negative emotions caused by the hurt?
  • are they able to understand the reasons why the person might have hurt them?

Below are transcribed copies of the filled-out questionnaires. Many of the spelling and grammatical mistakes have been retained. If anyone wants to see the original copies, just email brighterbrainsinstitute@gmail.com

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Participant #1 : Biira Dibora

Who hurt you?

Friend

Describe the incident:

Jenet laughed at me, saying that we are poor, I don’t have school uniform

How did you feel when you were hurt?

I was ashamed.

How did you respond?

I started walking alone. Because I thought other friends dislike me.

Have your feelings about this hurt your health? Your School Work? Your friendships? Your relationship?

It hurt my relationships with some of my friends.

Did this person hurt you intentionally or accidentally?

It was intentional

Do you understand why they hurt you?

It was intentional

Can you think of a time when you hurt someone and they forgave you? Were you happy and proud of yourself after you forgave them?

Yes

Would you like to forgive the person who hurt you this time? Do you think your life would be happier if you forgave them? Would you be happier if you did not have the feelings that you have now?

I need to be near her and share challenges do home works together.

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Participant #2 : Bwambale Derick

Who hurt you?

Friend Kaseru Jowerd

Describe the incident:

Joerd stonned me. He said am bad to lose his pen

How did you feel when you were hurt?

I was afraid

How did you respond?

I was unhappy and Stopped to play wit him

Have your feelings about this hurt your health? Your School Work? Your friendships? Your relationship?

I lost friendship because of this hurt.

Did this person hurt you intentionally or accidentally?

He was cruel to me and his anger was high

Do you understand why they hurt you?

Because I Lost Jowerd’s only pen he had

Can you think of a time when you hurt someone and they forgave you? Were you happy and proud of yourself after you forgave them? Would you like to forgive someone for a bigger hurt, and feel proper of yourself?

Yes, it is possible, it will make my head free

Would you like to forgive the person who hurt you this time? Do you think your life would be happier if you forgave them? Would you be happier if you did not have the feelings that you have now?

I want to forgive hem early so that I become a free boy

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Participant #3 : Bwambale Ronard

Who hurt you?

uncle

Describe the incident:

uncle didn’t give me food. Yet I was staying with him.

How did you feel when you were hurt?

I Feel afraid.

How did you respond?

I Just keep quiet and feel it and I forgive him.

Have your feelings about this hurt your health? Your School Work? Your friendships? Your relationship?

NO.

Did this person hurt you intentionally or accidentally?

No it was just accidentally

Do you understand why they hurt you?

My uncle hurt me accidentally because the food was little.

Can you think of a time when you hurt someone and they forgave you? Were you happy and proud of yourself after you forgave them? Would you like to forgive someone for a bigger hurt, and feel proud of yourself? Would you like to repair the relationship with the person who hurt you - is it possible?

Yes it is possible

Would you like to forgive the person who hurt you this time? Do you think your life would be happier if you forgave them? Would you be happier if you did not have the feelings that you have now?

yes I would like to forgive them now

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Participant #4 : Kambale Hangson

Who hurt you?

Mummy

Describe the incident:

mummy told me to go in the garden to harvest cassava and I refused,

she caned me until I harvest the cassava.

How did you feel when you were hurt?

I felt afraid

How did you respond?

I told my mummy that I shall never do it a gain

Have your feelings about this hurt your health? Your School Work? Your friendships? Your relationship?

NO

Did this person hurt you intentionally or accidentally?

Because I didn’t harvest the cassava

Do you understand why they hurt you?

yes because I did not harvest the cassava

Can you think of a time when you hurt someone and they forgave you? Were you happy and proud of yourself after you forgave them? Would you like to forgive someone for a bigger hurt, and feel proud of yourself?

yes

Would you like to forgive the person who hurt you this time? Do you think your life would be happier if you forgave them? Would you be happier if you did not have the feelings that you have now?

yes, because I need kindness and peace

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Participant #5 : Kiiza Mary

Who hurt you?

Grand mother Kabugho Pesikezia

Describe the incident:

she denied me food.

she said I will not eat food for failing to collect firewood.

How did you feel when you were hurt?

Afraid

How did you respond?

I went to collect firewood at night

Have your feelings about this hurt your health? Your School Work? Your friendships? Your relationship?

I have Learnt to do whatever they tell me to do.

I was

enoid for ashort time.

Did this person hurt you intentionally or accidentally?

It was intentional and maybe she wanted to descipline me.

Do you understand why they hurt you?

because there was no firewood at home and she wanted it.

Can you think of a time when you hurt someone and they forgave you? Were you happy and proud of yourself after you forgave them?

yes I accidentally ripped my friend’s uniform and she forgave me.

Can you think of a time when you forgave someone for hurting you? Would you like to forgive someone for a bigger hurt, and feel proud of yourself?

yes I forgave someone who hit me with a stone. I was happy for forgiving her.

Would you like to forgive the person who hurt you this time? Do you think your life would be happier if you forgave them? Would you be happier if you did not have the feelings that you have now?

To keep playing with them.

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Participant #6 : Kule Kenedi

Who hurt you?

Daddy

Describe the incident:

Daddy said that I have not grazed the goats so he canned me and I become very sad.

How did you feel when you were hurt?

I felt Angry

How did you respond?

But all in all I request for forgiveness

Have your feelings about this hurt your health? Your School Work? Your friendships? Your relationship?

NO

Did this person hurt you intentionally or accidentally?

Because I didn’t graze the goats.

Do you understand why they hurt you?

yes, because I didn’t graze the goats

Can you think of a time when you hurt someone and they forgave you? Were you happy and proud of yourself after you forgave them?

yes

Would you like to forgive the person who hurt you this time? Do you think your life would be happier if you forgave them? Would you be happier if you did not have the feelings that you have now?

yes, because I need love and happiness.

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Participant #7 : Kule Sanyeri

Who hurt you?

Friend

Describe the incident:

Friend said why have you lost my pen

How did you feel when you were hurt?

Ashamed

How did you respond?

I requested my friend to forgive me

Have your feelings about this hurt your health? Your School Work? Your friendships? Your relationship?

NO

Did this person hurt you intentionally or accidentally?

Because I lost my friend’s pen

Do you understand why they hurt you?

Yes, Because I Lost his pen.

Can you think of a time when you hurt someone and they forgave you? Were you happy and proud of yourself after you forgave them?

yes

Would you like to forgive them? Do you think your life would be happier if you forgave them? Would you be happier if you did not have the feelings that you have now?

yes Because I need Love, happiness and Kindness

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Participant #8 : Mbambu Jenipher

Who hurt you?

Teacher Mutwango Augustine at Kyarumba Primary School.

Describe the incident:

It was in the morning. Teacher said am late in class

How did you feel when you were hurt?

I was angry because he caned me

How did you respond?

I cried amd I wanted to go back home.

Have your feelings about this hurt your health? Your School Work? Your friendships? Your relationship?

It hurt my body

Did this person hurt you intentionally or accidentally?

It was school regulation to cane late comers

Do you understand why they hurt you?

I went to school late. It was 8:50 am

Can you think of a time when you hurt someone and they forgave you? Were you happy and proud of yourself after you forgave them?

yes

Would you like to forgive the person who hurt you this time? Do you think your life would be happier if you forgave them? Would you be happier if you did not have the feelings that you have now?

I need to tell them that I love them

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Participant #9 : Muhindo Edwin

Who hurt you?

BodaBoda cyclelist

Describe the incident:

He made me fall off for riding badly into a pot hall

How did you feel when you were hurt?

I was in pain

How did you respond?

I told him to take me to a clinic but he went away angry

Have your feelings about this hurt your health? Your School Work? Your friendships? Your relationship?

None of the above

Did this person hurt you intentionally or accidentally?

It was an accident.

Do you understand why they hurt you?

because he was a lamer.

Can you think of a time when you hurt someone and they forgave you?

Yes, I accidentally burnt my brother with fire - I was happy, I was forgiven.

Have you ever forgiven someone for a big hurt, and felt proud of yourself?

yes, I forgive my my sister when she dirtied my uniform.

Would you like to forgive the person who hurt you this time? Do you think your life would be happier if you forgave them? Would you be happier if you did not have the feelings that you have now?

Just to keep doing them good and greeting them.

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Participant #10 : Muhindo Joel

Who hurt you?

Grand Mother

Describe the incident:

my G. mother sent me to the river to fetch water yet it was school time.

How did you feel when you were hurt?

I feel angry.

How did you respond?

I didn’t react in any action but i just went where she had sent me.

Have your feelings about this hurt your health? Your School Work? Your friendships? Your relationship?

None of these above.

Did this person hurt you intentionally or accidentally?

yes it was intentionally.

Do you understand why they hurt you?

my Grandmother hurt me intentionally because she didn’t want me to go to school.

Can you think of a time when you hurt someone and they forgave you? Were you happy and proud of yourself after you forgave them?

Yes it possible.

Would you like to forgive them? Do you think your life would be happier if you forgave them? Would you be happier if you did not have the feelings that you have now?

No I will not be better and happier if I didn’t forgive them.

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Participant #11 : Muhindo John

Who hurt you?

Teacher

Describe the incident:

The teacher said I am late.

How did you feel when you were hurt?

Ashamed

How did you respond?

I requestedmy teacher to fogive me

Have your feelings about this hurt your health? Your School Work? Your friendships? Your relationship?

No

Did this person hurt you intentionally or accidentally?

Because I was late

Do you understand why they hurt you?

yes, Because I was late.

Can you think of a time when you hurt someone and they forgave you? Were you happy and proud of yourself after you forgave them?

Yes

Would you like to forgive them? Do you think your life would be happier if you forgave them? Would you be happier if you did not have the feelings that you have now?

yes, because I need love, happiness and kindness

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Participant #12 : Muhindo Jonane

Who hurt you?

Aunt

Describe the incident:

The aunt said why haven’t you gone to school early

How did you feel when you were hurt?

I feel angry

How did you respond?

I requested my aunt to forgive

Have your feelings about this hurt your health? Your School Work? Your friendships? Your relationship?

yes

Did this person hurt you intentionally or accidentally?

Because I didn’t go to school early.

Do you understand why they hurt you?

Yes: I did bad.

Can you think of a time when you hurt someone and they forgave you? Were you happy and proud of yourself after you forgave them?

Yes.

Would you like to forgive them? Do you think your life would be happier if you forgave them? Would you be happier if you did not have the feelings that you have now?

Yes. I need love from my aunt.

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Participant #13 : Mumbere Edwin

Who hurt you?

Brother

Describe the incident:

He said that I shouldn’t eat our food.

How did you feel when you were hurt?

I became angry with him.

How did you respond?

I requested my brother to forgive me

Have your feelings about this hurt your health? Your School Work? Your friendships? Your relationship?

yes

Did this person hurt you intentionally or accidentally?

Because I did not eat our food.

that day I remained on empty stomach

Do you understand why they hurt you?

yes, I did bad to him, I said bad words.

Can you think of a time when you hurt someone and they forgave you? Were you happy and proud of yourself after you forgave them?

yes

Would you like to forgive them? Do you think your life would be happier if you forgave them? Would you be happier if you did not have the feelings that you have now?

I need love and Joy

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Participant #14 : Mumbere Samson

Who hurt you?

Neighbor

Describe the incident:

He said that I have grazed the animals in his compound.

How did you feel when you were hurt?

I feel ashamed.

How did you respond?

I requested my neighbor to for give me.

Have your feelings about this hurt your health? Your School Work? Your friendships? Your relationship?

yes.

Did this person hurt you intentionally or accidentally?

the neighbor canned me and throw stones on my goats and they got lost in the bush — it was intentional

Do you understand why they hurt you?

yes, I did bad. because it was accidentally.

Can you think of a time when you hurt someone and they forgave you? Were you happy and proud of yourself after you forgave them?

yes.

Would you like to forgive them? Do you think your life would be happier if you forgave them? Would you be happier if you did not have the feelings that you have now?

yes, because I need kindness from my neighbour.

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Participant #15 : Nyangoma Janet

Who hurt you?

Grand mother

Describe the incident:

my grand mother sent me to the river to fetch water yet it was school time.

How did you feel when you were hurt?

I feel afraid

I Feel angry with her

How did you respond?

Just Feel it

Just Keep quiet

Have your feelings about this hurt your health? Your School Work? Your friendships? Your relationship?

no

none of these above

Did this person hurt you intentionally or accidentally?

Grand mother hurt me intentionally because she didn’t want me to go to school early in the morning.

Can you think of a time when you hurt someone and they forgave you? Were you happy and proud of yourself after you forgave them?

yes

Would you like to forgive them? Do you think your life would be happier if you forgave them? Would you be happier if you did not have the feelings that you have now?

yes like to forgive them now

yes I need peace



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